Debug
Understanding Others
C
Competence
What I can do; capability; mastery; understanding.
A
Autonomy
My choices; agency; being myself without masking.
R
Relatedness
Belonging; connection; love; "we are together".
D
Dignity
Respect; fair treatment; freedom from shame; being seen.
S
Safety
Freedom from danger; physical/emotional security; comfort.
Observation Summary
Observe someone's behaviour. Which of their CARDS might be in Red?
How does this work?
Debugging reads another person's behaviour through the lens of needs. It asks: which of their CARDS might be in Red?
How to Play
- Observe the behaviour (distress, withdrawal, aggression, etc.).
- Query: "Which CARDS might be in Red for them right now?"
- Intervention: "What do they need? How can we help move that need toward Green?"
When to Use
- When someone is upset and you want to understand why
- When behaviour seems irrational or disproportionate
- When resolving conflict or misunderstanding
- When supporting someone through difficulty
What It Reveals
Behaviour that looks hostile often signals unmet needs. A child who refuses to participate may have Competence or Safety in Red. A colleague who withdraws may have Dignity or Relatedness in Red. Debugging treats behaviour as signal, not character.